If you’re buying for gender-expansive folks in your life but you’re not what to get, we’ve gathered the best nonbinary gifts of 2023–chosen by a nonbinary person. If you’re not sure what nonbinary means, check out the info below.
Looking for something gender-neutral but not specifically non-binary themed? You can also consider unisex gifts.
With a Gay Agenda Undated Planner, they can literally keep track of the Gay Agenda. Someone asks them to make plans, they can say, “Hold on, let me see what’s on the agenda,” and pull this baby out. I’m about it.
Even the days of the week are color coded with in rainbow colors and it comes with a page of rainbow stickers.
Plus, let’s be honest, queers are not the best at staying organized. We’re not. So a planner could be a big help to keep their schedules straight.
They’ll probably be late anyway, but they’ll look cute doing it though.
This one is a little different. This is a gift that you don’t physically give to them. The gift is that you start visibly showing support for your LGBTQIA+ person. I’m featuring this Protect Trans Kids shirt but you can find hundreds of different choices for ally apparel from clothing to bumper stickers.
If you’re out in public with an ally shirt, you’re showing all the queer people around you (in the closet or out) that you are a safe person and that’s one more step in making the world feel safer. It signals that maybe the world isn’t against us after all. As a queer person who lives in a more conservative state, seeing ally symbols can immediately improve my mood more than you’d believe. If you’re not much of a rainbow shirt person, consider adding a garden flag outside your home.
The suicide rate of queer kids is devastating, but seeing that statement of support on a stranger just might be the thing that makes someone decide to live another day.
Show your support, even when your nonbinary person isn’t there to see it. I promise you it will be one the best presents you can give and it will mean the absolute world to them.
Being an ally means more than just accepting your queer person. It’s using your position as a straight person to help protect queer folks and support our fight for our right to safety and autonomy.
Does that sound overwhelming? Maybe. But you can start by wearing a shirt that says you proudly support nonbinary folks. When a queer person says nonbinary people are valid, it doesn’t mean as much to people who are opposed to who we are. When a straight person says nonbinary people are valid, someone who might not get the concept may be more likely to reconsider their opinion. That’s pretty lousy, but it’s the truth.
The Logitech C922x Pro Stream Webcam is a good choice for anyone who spends a lot of time streaming, making online content, or video-calling. Queer folks tend to rely heavily on our queer friends and chosen family who may or may not be local so being able to have reliable, high-quality video calls is pretty huge. A webcam can help your nonbinary person connect to people better–including you.
Logitech’s C922x streams at HD 1080 pixel resolution and 30 frames per second. If frame-rate is more important, it can also capture at 720 pixels and 60 frames per second.
It’s built to be foolproof with crisp autofocus, light correction for even backlit images, and two built-in microphones.
They’ll love turning their room into a rainbow paradise with this LED Rainbow Projector. The little battery-powered lamp creates a colorful rainbow that can be projected on a wall. It’s a nice night-light type of thing when you just want some lower light to relax or as a cool background for photos and videos. Being battery-powered means they can put it anywhere and take it anywhere. Imagine what this light would be like in your tent while camping.
It can turn on just any normal light or you can set it up to turn on by lighting up one of the rainbow at a time.
Think Cards Against Humanity except really gay. That’s The Queer Agenda. The base game comes with 420 cards it’s definitely the type of game you can keep playing with friends over and over. Someone plays a card that has a statement with a blank and everyone else plays the card they think best fits. You know the game. It’s a classic and now it’s queer.
They spice up the classic format with Dare Cards that dare players to do spicy things like posting a thirst trap to their social media. There are also expansion packs to keep things interesting.
Keep in mind that it’s designed for ages 18 and up so this is an adult game.
If you know that they already have Cards Against Humanity, you can also pick up their Pride Pack Expansion.
Sometimes we all need that little reminder from someone who loves and supports us and this Morse Code Bracelet by Joycuff allows you to send that message along with them in a way that only they’ll know. Not everyone would feel comfortable wearing a bracelet that says, “I love you,” but when it’s the beads spelling it out in morse code, the message stays private but still something that will remind them every time they see it.
I like that it’s a very simple, gender-neutral design that everyone can easily wear.
There’s a huge list of phrase options. I’m featuring, “Actually I can” because gender expansive people are constantly told that we can’t do this or we can’t do that because it goes against gender norms. But actually, we can.
Other possible phrases that might fit well include Be Yourself, You Are Loved, I F*cking Can, Never Give Up, Keep F*cking Going, Not Today Satan, and You Got This.
They’ll love this Bead-Free Cotton Chunky Knit Weighted Blanket from California Design Den because I’m going to go out on a limb and guess your nonbinary person has anxiety. The world is stressful when you don’t have everyone constantly invalidating your gender so it’s no wonder that gender-expansive people have more anxiety in their lives than cis-folks.
Do weighted blankets work? Cleveland Clinic quotes two studies that showed weighted blankets reduced anxiety in at least 60% of the participants. Those are good odds.
And I can say from experience, that I think they absolutely work. It’s like being hugged–but constantly. It makes my muscle tension just relax.
I have two different weighted blankets. One is a traditional glass-bead style blanket that I use to sleep with during winter because it’s very warm and not great for just lounging or use in warm months. My other blanket is this knit one from California Design Den. I got it as a media sample (with no promise of a review) and I can’t stop talking about it.
There are no beads or fillers, just very chunky cotton fabric in a nice loose weave that allows for airflow so you don’t overheat. You wouldn’t think something like that could be heavy enough, but it is.
Plus, it’s way more attractive than standard glass bead blankets. It comes in eight-pound, 12-pound, and 15-pound versions as well as in grey or navy blue.
If they’re at all crafty, get them this Cricut Explore Air 2 Starter Set. Sometimes when you’re queer, you simply can’t find the exact right pride shirt that proclaims your gender accurately and with this set, they can make their own and start printing their pronouns on nearly anything. It comes with everything they need to start creating their very own custom printed clothing and objects. The set includes the Explore Air 2 digital cutter, tool kit, cutting mat, transfer sheets, project pens, eight sheets of vinyl for decals, four sheets of glitter heat transfer vinyl for clothing, and a pen with a cardstock sample. You also get digital assets like an intro e-book, over 100 images, and 50 project ideas.
The Explore Air 2 can be used to make your own vinyl decals, heat-transfer and sublimation printed clothing, paper crafts, greeting cards, or use the included pen to write text. It uses Bluetooth to communicate with the free, and surprisingly user-friendly Cricut program to set up your projects.
I got to test out a media sample of the Cricut Explore Air 2 and I have a blast creating my own home printed clothing, coasters, and customizing my dog’s clothes.
I also can’t recommend a mug press enough. They allow you to print directly on coffee mugs and tumblers for creations that look professional and store-bought.
Cricut just came out with the Explore Air 3 Bundle which I haven’t tried but is designed to be even easier to use.
Get prideful and cozy with this Nonbinary Galaxy Blanket. It has Enby colors in stripes of yellow, white, purple, and black but all set against a swirling galaxy design with bright stars shining through.
The 40 by 50-inch fleece blanket is warm and cozy. Great for curling up on the couch or getting warm in bed.
This is a good pick for someone who is into space-themed stuff, just thinks galaxies are pretty, or someone who wants a more subtle sort of pride flag. The galaxy and stars help to obscure what exactly the colors are so it doesn’t jump right out in your face as a pride flag. That’s handy when you have some anxieties about landlords, parents, or other people coming into your space that you don’t feel especially safe around.
If you do want that right pop of color you can absolutely find an enby flag blanket.
If you’re buying for a young child or you need a gift for the parents of a nonbinary child, take a look at It Feels Good to Be Yourself: A Book About Gender Identity. It’s a beautiful hardcover book that introduces the idea of gender identity in simple, easy-to-understand language with a backdrop of vibrant, colorful artwork.
It lays out, very matter of fact, that people have different gender identities and that everyone is loved and perfect just how they are. It covers people who are cisgender, transgender, and nonbinary all with artwork that is very inclusive of people of different races, religions, and disabilities.
The book is well-written, nice to look at, and up to date. It’s meant for ages four to eight.
Pronoun Buttons are always really useful to help everyone remember how people identify and how they want to be referred to. These are custom made so you can choose what pronouns you want on the buttons and they’re printed to order.
They don’t have to all be the same pronoun either. You can request this many they/thems and this many she/theys and so on. It’s great for people who use mixed or neo pronouns like ze/zir because you don’t often see those buttons for sale.
They come in lots of 10 to 500 and you can choose for them to be a single color or randomized.
If they enjoy playing with makeup, get them HipDot’s Diamond Diva Meatball Eye Palette and they’ll have a ball coming up with stunning new lewks. Besides have bright, highly-pigmented colors and glitters, the case is covered in all combinations of gender symbols making it great for people who are interested in makeup but are uncomfortable with the typical women-only marketing of most makeup.
The Diamond Diva palette is a collaboration between HipDot and the drag queen Meatball, featured on the first season of Dragula, and each palette comes with a Meatball stencil sheet. The colors are all Meatball theme including colors like Reba Diva, Grandma’s Pickles, and Wig Snatch.
HipDot makeup is vegan, cruelty-free, and free of mineral oil, parabens, phthalates, and talc. Drag artist Jaymes Mansfield used this palette in their Drag Herstory YouTube series.
With all the ravings on the news and social media about “The Gay Agenda,” it’s only right that you make sure your loved one has a copy with this cute Gay Agenda Christmas Ornament.
These little ornaments are handmade in New York City and have great details like noting that the pages are “Queer Ruled.”
If they’re not a Christmas tree type of person, they also make this cute little journal as a customizable pin.
Unless it’s stone-butch, whatever flavor of gender-bending style they’re into, a good pair of Argyle Sweater Tights is a nice touch to any genderqueer outfit.
They’re very versatile and can be styled to be anything from prep to punk. The thicker material and dark coloring are great at hiding leg hair (if that’s something that’s important to them) and they allow them to wear their shorter skirts, dresses, and shorts in colder weather.
They come in several different colors. If you know they’re more femme-presenting (as in they tend to look more feminine) they might like these sheer chrysanthemum tights.
Who can resist a little LGBTea? This British Royal Series Porcelain Tea Service for Six certainly isn’t for every genderqueer person you know but some of us are Anglophiles, really into British period pieces, or simply love nothing more than a good cup of tea.
A real tea service set allows you to really sink into the soothing ritual of making and serving tea. Plus they’ll like classy and sassy drinking their tea.
It comes with six teacups, six saucers, one teapot, one tea strainer, one cream pitcher, one sugar bowl, and six teaspoons. The spoons have a clever bend at them so they rest easily on the lip of the cup. This set comes in purple, pink, white. All the colors have a gold rim making them not microwave-safe but they are dishwasher-safe.
Most of us gender-nonconforming folks have certainly identified as “tired” at one point or another whether it’s tired of being misunderstood, tired of dealing with intolerance, tired of gender dysphoria, or tired of living in a late-stage capitalist dystopia. We’re not men. We’re not women. We’re tired.
I love that it uses the four colors of the nonbinary flag as well to really hammer it home. The hoodie is a unisex cut and is machine washable and dryable.
Some nonbinary folks are just plain done with gender. It’s never done them any favors and only caused more problems. Those are the people who would love this LookHUMAN Gender Is Garbage Mug.
The trash-cat (possum) printed on the mug is holding a little nonbinary flag in case the message wasn;t already clear. These mugs are microwave and dishwasher safe and were printed here in the United States.
If you’re buying for a questioning or nonbinary teenager who is also a Christian, there can be a lot of struggle there to reconcile a lot of feelings and conceptions there. Queerfully and Wonderfully Made: A Guide for LGBTQ+ Christian Teens is a book that can help guide queer teens through that and show them that God made them as they are and that they are loved.
Having an accepting church can be a huge support pillar for teens as they come into their own identity. Having a sense of faith that their gender is not only accepted but celebrated and holy is even better.
The book is made up of writings from LGBTQIA+ professionals and queer Christians sharing their own experiences. It’s meant for grades seven and up about I would think that it might be a little young for older teens.
If they’re on TikTok, they’re probably a proud member of the Alphabet Mafia and would get a kick out of this Alphabet Mafia Rainbow Tee. No actual mafias are involved (I think) so no need to worry–the Alphabet Mafia refers to the LGBTQIA+ community.
When I was younger it was called the Alphabet Soup (because of the mouthful of letters) but mafia is a significantly fiercer term which I love and it better represents the sense of family you get from being a part of the community.
As queers, we’ve got a couple of things in common with movie-style organized crime. We take care of our own. Not typically the police’s biggest fan (Stonewall was a riot). Men kissing each other on the mouth a la Godfather II (here’s the YouTube clip). Our weddings are a big deal. Okay, that might be it.
The shirt comes in “men’s” and “women’s” cuts as well as 10 different colors, although one of those colors is white lettering on white which is a little silly but, hey, you do you. It’s machine washable and dryable.
More and more, queer folks are finding our people through social media so give them something that makes working with social media easier and more fun. This Ring Light Tripod provides ideal video and photo lighting with hands-free operation.
I like this brand because it’s designed to be compatible with all phone types with a phone holder that adjusts from 2.3 inches to 4.3 inches wide. The ring light tilts for the exact lighting angle you want and the tripod extends up to 51 inches tall.
It comes with a wireless Bluetooth remote used to take photos and video. There are 10 levels of light brightness to choose from as well as three light colors: bright white, natural light, and warm light.
It hurts because it’s true. This 99 Problems Shirt lays out the crux of queer strife in trans pride flag pink and blue. If you trace them all back, I’d bet good money you could lay those issues at this institution’s feet.
Older folks (think Gen-Xer or Millennial gifts) are most likely to get the reference here so this might not be the best choice for a teen or other Gen-Z person.
It comes in “men’s” and “women’s” cuts as well as several different colors. It’s machine washable and dryable.
It’s an anthology of essays and stories from genderqueer folks of all ages. When we’re just coming out, many gender variant folks feel like they’re strange, alone, or wrong. The media can make us feel like we’re a new oddity so a book with the voices of genderqueer and trans elders talking about the same things we’re feeling can be truly reaffirming.
At just over 300 pages, there are plenty of different voices and experiences for your loved one to find something they connect to without being overwhelmed.
Shopping for a nonbinary loved one but you're stumped and nervous? These best nonbinary gifts were gathered by a nonbinary person to celebrate being LGBTQIA+.
